Selling the marital home without adding to the divorce
Selling houses is what we do, and in a divorce we do it in a very particular way. Everything goes to both sides at the same time. Nothing gets negotiated with one spouse behind the other. The number is written down so nobody has to remember what was said in a phone call.
We also know who to call. Divorce attorneys, appraisers who do formal valuations for court, and CPAs who handle the tax question on a marital home. Those are separate professions and we will point you toward people we trust.
Why a divorce sale needs a number, not a range
An agent gives you an opinion of value and a listing price. What actually arrives, months later, may be higher or lower. That uncertainty is very hard to divide, and in a divorce everything eventually has to be divided.
A written cash offer is a fixed figure. It goes straight into the negotiation, into the attorneys' file, into the spreadsheet where the rest of the divorce settlement lives. Some couples accept it. Some use it as a floor and list anyway. Both are sensible outcomes.
Why local knowledge changes the number
A four-bedroom on Mt Avenue. A three-bedroom on Beech Street. A two-bedroom on Irving Avenue. All of them in Wyandanch, all bought by us.
Wyandanch is roughly 12,046 people in Suffolk County, ZIP 11798, and the housing stock is mostly cape cod, ranch, multi-family. Around Wyandanch LIRR station and Geraldine Park, most of it is old enough that the mechanicals are on their second or third life. The Wyandanch stop pulls buyers who commute, which supports the good houses and does very little for the ones that need a roof. We have bought enough here to know which streets take water, which blocks still have oil tanks in the ground, and what the Wyandanch Union Free School District does to a resale price.
Nobody has to stage the house through a divorce
Condition is not a problem here, and in a divorce that matters more than usual, because repairs mean deciding together who pays for them.
We buy as is. Deferred maintenance, a half finished project somebody stopped caring about, contents still in the house. None of it needs resolving before we make an offer on the Wyandanch property, and none of it becomes another line item in the divorce settlement.
Choosing your own closing date in a divorce sale
Divorce timelines and real estate timelines rarely line up on their own. A settlement gets negotiated around a closing date, and then the buyer's lender moves that date twice.
We close with our own funds, so the date we agree is the date. If you need sixty days, take sixty. If you need next month because the divorce is being finalized and nobody wants the house hanging over it, we can usually do that as well.
What the two paths cost in Wyandanch
These are the two routes open to you with a house in a divorce, priced against what Wyandanch houses actually sell for.
Work it against Wyandanch's own numbers. The median sale here is $685,000. A 5% commission on that is $34,250, and seller closing costs of about 2% add roughly $13,700. Those are costs we can cover on our side. That is $47,950 gone before anyone counts the repairs it took to get the house listable.
There are two waits in a listed sale and people usually only count the first. In Wyandanch the median house takes about 42 days to go from listed to a signed contract. Then it waits again, typically 45 to 60 days, while the buyer's lender orders an appraisal and underwrites the loan. Call it 87 to 102 days from sign to keys, assuming nothing goes wrong.
The part worth understanding is what a signed contract actually guarantees, which is less than most sellers assume. A retail buyer with a mortgage contingency can walk away right up to the end. If they do not qualify, if the appraisal comes in under the price, if they change their mind and let the financing lapse. A share of deals die exactly there, after months of waiting, and the house goes back on the market with time on it. We are not borrowing anything, so there is no lender to satisfy, no appraisal to come in low and no contingency to exercise.
| Listing with an agent | Selling to us | |
|---|---|---|
| Sale price | $685,000 (Wyandanch median) | Our written offer |
| Commission | −$34,250 | None |
| Seller closing costs | −$13,700 | We can cover them |
| Repairs before listing | Out of pocket | None |
| Cleanout | Yours | Ours |
| Showings | Until it sells | One visit |
| Listed to signed contract | 42 days (Wyandanch median, once listable) | 24 hours to a written offer |
| Contract to closing | 45 to 60 days (waiting on the buyer's lender) | A date you choose |
| Total wait | 87 to 102 days if nothing falls through | Yours to set |
| Can the buyer walk? | Yes (mortgage contingency runs to the end) | No financing to fall through |
| Before repairs and carrying | $637,050 | The number we put in writing |
The listing column assumes a 5% commission and seller closing costs of about 2%. Both vary. We have not subtracted repairs or the cost of carrying the house while it sits, because those depend on the property. A house in good condition listed with a good agent can absolutely beat a cash offer, and we will say so if that is your situation.
When only one of you wants to sell the Wyandanch house
A surprising number of divorce sales unstick the moment there is a firm number on the table, because most of the disagreement was never really about the house. It was about not knowing.
We will give you that number with no obligation, and we will give it to both sides identically. If it turns out the divorce needs a court ordered sale, your attorney handles that part and we will work to whatever timetable the court sets.
What you do not pay when you sell a house in a divorce
Every line below is a cost of listing a house in a divorce the retail way that simply does not arise here.
- Agent commission
- $34,250 at 5% of the Wyandanch median none
- Seller closing costs
- About $13,700 on a $685,000 sale. We can cover these. none
- Repairs to make it listable
- Whatever the house needs, paid up front none
- Cleanout and removal
- Per truckload, before anyone views it none
- Carrying costs while it waits
- Taxes, insurance and utilities across the 87 to 102 days it takes to find a buyer and then wait on their lender none
When a divorce buyout beats a sale
The buyout math is worth running before you list anything. One spouse refinances, pays the other their share of the equity, and keeps the Wyandanch house. It fails more often on the monthly payment than on the equity, because one income has to carry what two were carrying.
A written offer from us gives the divorce a value to run that math against. Whether the answer is a buyout or a sale, you will have decided with a real number rather than a guess.
Common questions
Do both of us have to agree to sell the Wyandanch house?
Everyone on the deed has to sign the contract. We can put the same written offer in front of both parties and both attorneys at once, so nobody in the divorce is working from different information about what the house is worth.
Can the offer go to our attorneys directly?
Yes. Send us their details and we will deal with them rather than with either of you, if that is what the divorce needs.
Can we sell before the divorce is finalized?
Frequently yes, and plenty of couples do, with the proceeds held or split according to the agreement. How that gets structured is a question for your divorce attorney, and we will work to whatever they set up.
What if my spouse is still living in the Wyandanch house?
Common in a divorce, and not an obstacle. One visit is all we need, arranged around the person living there, and the closing date on the Wyandanch house can be set far enough out to make the move manageable.
Will you tell my ex what I said to you?
We do not carry messages between two sides of a divorce. The offer goes to both parties identically, and anything you tell us about your circumstances stays with us.